Have you ever found yourself pulling away from someone when the relationship starts to feel more serious? Perhaps you enjoy being close to someone, but then suddenly feel the need for space. Maybe you find it difficult to talk about your feelings, become uncomfortable when someone wants more from you emotionally, or start questioning theContinue reading “Why do I pull away when someone starts getting close? Understanding avoidant attachment”
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Why do I keep overthinking my relationship? Understanding anxious attachment
Have you ever found yourself analysing a text message over and over again? Wondering if you’ve said the wrong thing? Feeling anxious because your partner seems a little quieter than usual? Perhaps you’ve been told you’re “too needy” or that you “overthink everything.” If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. One possible explanation is anxiousContinue reading “Why do I keep overthinking my relationship? Understanding anxious attachment”
Why do I react the way I do in relationships? Understanding attachment styles
Have you ever found yourself wondering why you react the way you do when it comes to relationships? Perhaps you overthink when someone doesn’t text back, find yourself pulling away when things start getting serious, or worry that you’re “too much” or “not enough” in relationships. It’s easy to assume these reactions are simply partContinue reading “Why do I react the way I do in relationships? Understanding attachment styles”
Signs you’re growing apart in your relationship
Feeling disconnected from your partner? Explore the signs you may be growing apart in your relationship and how to gain clarity about what’s happening.
What your breakup might be trying to teach you
Breakups are painful and when a relationship ends most people focus on their now-ex partner and how they wish things could have been different. But breakups can tell us more about ourselves if we’re able to shift our thoughts from them to us.
Should I stay or should I go? Questions to ask yourself if you’re unsure about your relationship
There are moments in a relationship where something just doesn’t feel quite right. Not necessarily wrong enough to leave, but not right enough to feel settled either. You might find yourself going back and forth: “Maybe it’s just a phase.”, “What if I’m expecting too much?”, “But what if I walk away and regret it?”.Continue reading “Should I stay or should I go? Questions to ask yourself if you’re unsure about your relationship”
The “Let Them” method in relationships
The “Let Them” method, popularised by Mel Robbins, encourages individuals to stop trying to control others and instead allow them to reveal their true selves. This approach helps individuals refocus on their own choices in relationships rather than analysing or changing others’ behaviours, promoting clarity and self-respect. However, it should not be used in harmful situations.
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day, whatever your relationship status
Valentine’s Day, traditionally a day of love and affection, can bring up a lot of different of thoughts and feelings. Whether you are in a relationship, happily (or unhappily) single, or in a “it’s complicated” situationship, this blog looks at how you can celebrate Valentine’s Day, whatever your relationship status.
Why the new year doesn’t mean a new you
The start of a new year tends to get us thinking about our lives and how we want them to be different. It provides us with a natural opportunity to ‘start again’. We set resolutions for the year ahead, often with the intention of “New year, new me!”. But why “new” you? What’s wrong withContinue reading “Why the new year doesn’t mean a new you”
Facing Christmas alone? 6 ways to help you cope
If you’re facing this Christmas alone, whether through a breakup, dating disappointment, or simply finding yourself single when you didn’t expect to be. it can feel especially hard. Christmas has a way of shining a very bright light on relationships, togetherness, and family. When that’s exactly what feels missing, the loneliness can feel sharper, heavier,Continue reading “Facing Christmas alone? 6 ways to help you cope”