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Rubbish love life? Blame your parents!* Understanding how your parents’ relationship may have influenced yours

*don’t! Read on to find out why,,, Have you ever wondered why you seem to keep having the same problems in relationships? Perhaps you find yourself attracted to people who aren’t emotionally available, struggle to trust someone even when they’re treating you well, or find it difficult to express what you need. Maybe you’ve noticedContinue reading “Rubbish love life? Blame your parents!* Understanding how your parents’ relationship may have influenced yours”

What does a healthy, happy relationship feel like? Understanding secure attachment

Have you ever wondered what it feels like to be in a healthy, happy relationship? Perhaps you’re used to overthinking where you stand with someone, worrying about whether they really care, or feeling the need to pull away when things start getting serious. Maybe your relationships have left you feeling anxious, uncertain or unsure ofContinue reading “What does a healthy, happy relationship feel like? Understanding secure attachment”

Why do I pull away when someone starts getting close? Understanding avoidant attachment

Have you ever found yourself pulling away from someone when the relationship starts to feel more serious? Perhaps you enjoy being close to someone, but then suddenly feel the need for space. Maybe you find it difficult to talk about your feelings, become uncomfortable when someone wants more from you emotionally, or start questioning theContinue reading “Why do I pull away when someone starts getting close? Understanding avoidant attachment”

Why do I keep overthinking my relationship? Understanding anxious attachment

Have you ever found yourself analysing a text message over and over again? Wondering if you’ve said the wrong thing? Feeling anxious because your partner seems a little quieter than usual? Perhaps you’ve been told you’re “too needy” or that you “overthink everything.” If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. One possible explanation is anxiousContinue reading “Why do I keep overthinking my relationship? Understanding anxious attachment”

Should I stay or should I go? Questions to ask yourself if you’re unsure about your relationship

There are moments in a relationship where something just doesn’t feel quite right. Not necessarily wrong enough to leave, but not right enough to feel settled either. You might find yourself going back and forth: “Maybe it’s just a phase.”, “What if I’m expecting too much?”, “But what if I walk away and regret it?”.Continue reading “Should I stay or should I go? Questions to ask yourself if you’re unsure about your relationship”

How self-belief influences your relationships

Ever find yourself falling for the same type of person again and again, or wondering why your relationships never turn out the way you want them to?  It’s easy to blame others when you get hurt, but if this is a recurring pattern in your relationships, perhaps the answer lies closer to home… Our ownContinue reading “How self-belief influences your relationships”

Love yourself: Valentine’s Day edition

Valentine’s Day, often celebrated as a day of love and affection, can be a mixed bag of emotions for many people.  Whether you are in a relationship, navigating the complexities of love, or finding solace in your own company, this blog post aims to shed light on how you can approach Valentine’s Day with aContinue reading “Love yourself: Valentine’s Day edition”

Rebuilding trust in a relationship

In the last blog, we looked at the importance of trust in a relationship: https://beckystokes-counsellor.co.uk/2023/10/17/building-trust-in-relationships/ This blog is about how to rebuild trust in a relationship after it has been damaged.  Whether the breach of trust was due to infidelity, lies, broken promises, or any other issue, it is possible for to be restored withContinue reading “Rebuilding trust in a relationship”