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Rubbish love life? Blame your parents!* Understanding how your parents’ relationship may have influenced yours
*don’t! Read on to find out why,,, Have you ever wondered why you seem to keep having the same problems in relationships? Perhaps you find yourself attracted to people who aren’t emotionally available, struggle to trust someone even when they’re treating you well, or find it difficult to express what you need. Maybe you’ve noticed…
What does a healthy, happy relationship feel like? Understanding secure attachment
Have you ever wondered what it feels like to be in a healthy, happy relationship? Perhaps you’re used to overthinking where you stand with someone, worrying about whether they really care, or feeling the need to pull away when things start getting serious. Maybe your relationships have left you feeling anxious, uncertain or unsure of…
Why do I pull away when someone starts getting close? Understanding avoidant attachment
Have you ever found yourself pulling away from someone when the relationship starts to feel more serious? Perhaps you enjoy being close to someone, but then suddenly feel the need for space. Maybe you find it difficult to talk about your feelings, become uncomfortable when someone wants more from you emotionally, or start questioning the…
Why do I keep overthinking my relationship? Understanding anxious attachment
Have you ever found yourself analysing a text message over and over again? Wondering if you’ve said the wrong thing? Feeling anxious because your partner seems a little quieter than usual? Perhaps you’ve been told you’re “too needy” or that you “overthink everything.” If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. One possible explanation is anxious…
Why do I react the way I do in relationships? Understanding attachment styles
Have you ever found yourself wondering why you react the way you do when it comes to relationships? Perhaps you overthink when someone doesn’t text back, find yourself pulling away when things start getting serious, or worry that you’re “too much” or “not enough” in relationships. It’s easy to assume these reactions are simply part…
Signs you’re growing apart in your relationship
Feeling disconnected from your partner? Explore the signs you may be growing apart in your relationship and how to gain clarity about what’s happening.
What your breakup might be trying to teach you
Breakups are painful and when a relationship ends most people focus on their now-ex partner and how they wish things could have been different. But breakups can tell us more about ourselves if we’re able to shift our thoughts from them to us.
Should I stay or should I go? Questions to ask yourself if you’re unsure about your relationship
There are moments in a relationship where something just doesn’t feel quite right. Not necessarily wrong enough to leave, but not right enough to feel settled either. You might find yourself going back and forth: “Maybe it’s just a phase.”, “What if I’m expecting too much?”, “But what if I walk away and regret it?”.…
The “Let Them” method in relationships
The “Let Them” method, popularised by Mel Robbins, encourages individuals to stop trying to control others and instead allow them to reveal their true selves. This approach helps individuals refocus on their own choices in relationships rather than analysing or changing others’ behaviours, promoting clarity and self-respect. However, it should not be used in harmful…
How to celebrate Valentine’s Day, whatever your relationship status
Valentine’s Day, traditionally a day of love and affection, can bring up a lot of different of thoughts and feelings. Whether you are in a relationship, happily (or unhappily) single, or in a “it’s complicated” situationship, this blog looks at how you can celebrate Valentine’s Day, whatever your relationship status.
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