This page brings together self-guided resources to support you in general, or specifically with breakups, relationship difficulties, and looking for love.
These tools are for anyone who wants to reflect and work things through in their own time — whether counselling isn’t right for you right now, you’re not based in the UK, or you simply prefer a more private, self-directed approach.
You can dip in and out, choose what feels relevant, and use these resources on their own or alongside counselling.
Click on each one for more details.
General:
FREE Anxiety Toolkit: A list of tools that may help you with your anxiety.
Journals: A selection of blank-page journals that provide the perfect space to put your thoughts onto paper.
Breakup Support:
FREE Self-care checklist: Just choose one thing from this list when you’re struggling.
FREE Grounding tools: To help calm you down when emotions feel overwhelming.
FREE Journal prompts: Writing things down is a powerful way to process pain and, gain clarity.
FREE Healing mantras and gentle reminders: Words to come back to when it hurts.
FREE No Contact Webinar: Why no contact is the key to healing.
30 Days No Contact Workbook: Your step-by-step, day-by-day survival guide.
Relationship Support:
FREE Relationship Check-in Sheet: Reflect on what’s working and what isn’t.
FREE Journal Prompts for Relationship Clarity: Explore your needs, feelings and hopes.
FREE Relationship Self-Care Checklist: Just choose one thing from this list when you’re struggling.
FREE What is Domestic Abuse?: It’s not just physical abuse, but also behaviour that can control, frighten or cause psychological harm.
Looking for Love:
FREE Relationship values and needs worksheet: Get clear on what you are looking for in a relationship.
FREE Journal prompts for dating: Use these to help evaluate a date.
FREE Identify your dating patterns: Understand the common threads in your dating or relationship experiences.
FREE Green and red flags dating checklist: A guide to help you spot what’s healthy and what’s not in those first few dates.
How to Find The One – and live happily ever after (workbook) A deep exploration of the beliefs and patterns that are holding you back in relationships – and how to change them.
How to Find The One – Lite version (workbook) A lighter version of the above workbook, that helps to uncover the beliefs and patterns that are holding you back in relationships – and how to change them.
© Becky Stokes 2026