The “Let Them” method, popularised by Mel Robbins, encourages individuals to stop trying to control others and instead allow them to reveal their true selves. This approach helps individuals refocus on their own choices in relationships rather than analysing or changing others’ behaviours, promoting clarity and self-respect. However, it should not be used in harmful situations.
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Can you be friends with your ex? Here’s what to consider
Can you be friends with your ex? Sometimes the bond feels too deep to simply walk away. Other times, the idea of losing someone completely – even if the romantic part didn’t work out – can feel unbearable. But just because you can stay friends doesn’t always mean you should.
Dating and Relationship Red Flags
Relationships can be one of life’s greatest joys, but they can also be a source of pain and confusion if unhealthy patterns take hold. Whether you’re navigating the world of dating or reflecting on an established partnership, recognising red flags is crucial for maintaining your emotional wellbeing and building a healthy, fulfilling connection. In thisContinue reading “Dating and Relationship Red Flags”
Self-Care and Self-Love in Relationships
I am a great believer in self-love and how it can be difficult to love someone else, or let them love you, if you don’t love yourself first. However, this doesn’t just apply when you are looking for a relationship – self-care and self-love should also continue when you are in a relationship. In fact,Continue reading “Self-Care and Self-Love in Relationships”
Rebuilding trust in a relationship
In the last blog, we looked at the importance of trust in a relationship: https://beckystokes-counsellor.co.uk/2023/10/17/building-trust-in-relationships/ This blog is about how to rebuild trust in a relationship after it has been damaged. Whether the breach of trust was due to infidelity, lies, broken promises, or any other issue, it is possible for to be restored withContinue reading “Rebuilding trust in a relationship”
Building trust in relationships
In the last blog, we have talked about affairs – why people have them and the effect they can have: https://beckystokes-counsellor.co.uk/2023/09/12/why-do-people-have-affairs-and-what-impact-do-they-have-on-those-involved/. So this month, I thought we’d take a look at the importance of trust in a relationship and how to build it. The importance of trust Trust is the foundation of any successful relationship. Continue reading “Building trust in relationships”
The importance of setting boundaries
Before I started training to become a counsellor, I’d hadn’t really come across the concept of boundaries, but through my own training, self-development, and working with clients, I’ve not only become very familiar with the concept, but also learned the importance of having them. What are boundaries? A boundary can be defined as the edgeContinue reading “The importance of setting boundaries”